Conquer your innermost fears

How many times have you turned away from a relationship or a great opportunity because you were afraid to take up the challenge and go for it? And how many times have you seen the other person taking the same opportunity and doing wonders? It’s not that you couldn’t do better by taking up that opportunity, but someone else is doing better today because he/she did not let the fear overpower his (her) self-belief, confidence and willingness. The stealers of our dreams are always around us who give a rise to our fears. As a kid, do we fear to fall when we start walking? We just enjoy the moment, but as we age; through our social circle, our parents, we start analyzing the good or bad, danger or smooth, etc. Although this is very much required to an extent, but fear somehow sometimes convene us that we can never accomplish our dreams, when people around us start discouraging us by saying it’s too difficult and you cannot do this. Everyone talk what they have experienced. Because someone failed in a relationship because of arguments, he/he would suggest you to keep quiet in an argument, and you begin to keep quiet to save your relationship and keep the grudges inside because you fear to lose the one you love. Because someone failed to crack IAS Exam, he/she would suggest you to not go to for that, it’s waste of time, it’s not that easy and somewhere you get convinced and fail to give your 100% out of fear and lack of belief. And you wake up when you see other people getting success in the same field or saving their relationship by talking or by arguing.

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Fear is not bad. Fear often gives us an early warning signal to protect us. But there is a huge difference between a fear that protects us from falling from a cliff and a constant fear that keeps us away from living a fulfilled life. Here are few steps that help conquer such fears and keeps you all set to take up the challenges and win the battles. Supportive companions, relaxation techniques, positive mindset, ability to face the fears, spiritual enhancement are some of the practical ways through which one can easily win the war of life while enjoying the struggles and challenges.

Positive social connection: We either tend to resist admitting our fear because we afraid that the other person will laugh, will not understand, think less of us, or we choose the wrong person to share our problems. Our mental stress turns into fears when we share with a person who has a negative approach towards life. So always find a good companion who supports you or encourage you for your dreams; could be a trusted friend brother or sister or supportive parents. They may show you a new light covered by your fears.

Spiritual enhancement: Have faith in the power of positive visualization, law of attraction, universe and God. Be truthful to yourself, ask yourself if you can do it or not, rather letting your fear suppress it, listen to the answer coming deep inside your soul that you can do it. Positive visualization will amazingly take your fears away. 

Relaxation techniques: Fear not only keeps us away from living a fulfilled life but often becomes a cause of many health problems. Hence, you must add some healthy exercise, meditation techniques in your daily schedule to keep the fear and unnecessary stress away and live with a more positive approach. Sitting for 30 minutes in the morning in silence with closed eyes, focusing on your breath and understanding your thoughts keeps your day stress-free and positive. When you are positive from inside, negative surrounding cannot harm you.

Face your challenges and fears: One must be wise enough to understand that fears are healthy in some situations and we should keep our safety on our top priority always. But if the threat is more to your mental status than physical, taking up the challenge is the best thing you can do to conquer that mental threat, otherwise, that fear will keep threatening you throughout. Start facing your fears in steps, supposedly you have a fear of public speaking, start it with addressing few people in a small room; may be with your family, colleague or any other people who are known to you, then gradually consider leading your departmental or group meetings to gain more confidence and slowly take a step ahead towards your ultimate purpose.

Love yourself

Be gentle with yourself, you are a child of Universe, nowhere less than any stars in the sky. In such noisy confusion of life, where everything and everyone have their own set priorities, do not ever forget to love yourself and do what is right for you. Universe demands us not to harm any other living soul, but never denies to think for one own self and be good to yourself. As long as you do what you love and love what you do, the rest will fall into place gradually.

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How to embrace forgiveness and prosper in life

Forgiving someone after a betrayal, hurt or abandoned is undoubtedly a very challenging task, but in order to get an access into healthy wellbeing and to attain inner peace, forgiveness is essential.  Although forgiveness never comes instant and it requires a lot of patience, positive empowerment, and self-examination. We only empower ourselves when we accept, examine and then gently release.

We cannot choose what happens to us, but we can definitely choose how to react to a situation. Your reaction during the hours of turmoil and miseries determines how long those situations stay with you until you grab your achievement once again. By keeping grudges in mind, the person whom we harm the most is our own self.

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In order to embrace forgiveness and let go the moment of betrayal, miseries or sorrows, one has to understand that everyone has free will. Everyone has right to choose and decide when to enter or exit from our lives, we cannot hold neither the person nor those negative or betrayed emotions. Yes, you cannot stay calm and feel glad after you gone through a break-up, you have to let those negative emotions and anger come out, and this is very natural. It’s like cleaning out our soul; you have to get it out in order to make progress.

Let’s dig into few tips for embracing forgiveness and cleanse your inner being:

Set a goal

Sometimes we have to be strong and make a stronger decision that we have to let go of the past emotions and embrace forgiveness. Make a conscious choice that you don’t have to look back now and just be open to receive what universe has to offer ahead.

Forgive yourself

There is a friend of mine who lost his wife in a car accident and he is still unable to forgive himself for not spending enough time with her and for not being present at that moment to save her. As long as you will not learn to forgive yourself, you will never learn to forgive the people around you and end up keeping grudges, sorrows, and miseries in your heart forever. You cannot project something onto others what you have not done to yourself.

Start with small

Forgiveness is a process. You cannot get over the hurt right away; it even takes years in many situations or cases. But one can always start the process with willingness and an ability to tolerate those intense emotions that make us want to run away from the situation. Do not run away, rather face it; let your anger, your deeper emotions flow out. Most of the people not even begin the initial process, as they think if they let go the situation, the person they are upset with will be proved right. Forgiveness is letting go of everything, no matter if the other person proves to be right or wrong.

Look at these losses as a learning experience and an opportunity for self-growth

Life has no guarantee; anything can happen at any moment. The miseries you face due to the people around you are because life wanted to put you in such situations to help you become wiser and experienced. You have to see the positive learning on the other side of the coin. Most of us only focus on one side; the accident which happened, but we never take it as an incident. The accident happened, put you in miserable situations, but it is also an incident on which you’ll look back later on and learn from.

What is meant for you always arrives on time

We always reach our destination at the predetermined time by Universe. So no need to rush, rather work hard to achieve your goal and enjoy the journey and feel the transformation you will experience while moving towards your ultimate destination. 

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Benefits of having an open and free mind

Most of the people feel offended many of times due to various circumstances or situations life throws. But an open and free mind always stays detached from all the outer circumstances and knows that it is never the self which is offended, but it’s we and our mind which let us our inner self affected and make feel offended due to outer circumstances. If we don’t like an apple, that doesn’t mean the apple is bad, many other people love the same apple. So when someone insults you or doesn’t like you, that doesn’t mean you are bad, that simply means that the person has different choices. You know yourself the most; it’s an image of yourself to which you are attached, and that image doesn’t resonate with the image you form after or during an insult. Simply put, you highly affect your inner self and start believing on off put remarks by others on you, which even overpower your belief on yourself, and you start justifying yourself. But, if you would have been detached, if you would have kept your self-belief stronger, no offence would have been taken. Although, this doesn’t mean that you make your personality so stiff that no other person could help you become a better personality, which is against your growth and enlightenment. Criticism is always required, but self-evaluation is must. You must sit in silence, and evaluate your weaker areas to work upon in order to keep upgrading yourself and moving towards betterment and self-growth.  

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Detachment doesn’t mean you isolate yourself from socializing or accepting others’ views. It simply means making you inner self and belief so stronger that no negative outer circumstances would affect your inner being.

The power to mold and adapt oneself with different group of people in different situations requires:

Tolerance, acceptance, ability to face negative situations with a sense of detachment, ability to forgive, ability to be a detached observer of people’s actions and situations while raising your right opinions in positive and calm manner wherever required, cooperation, right and positive communication, understanding others perspective, focus more on positive traits of other person rather criticizing them for negative traits, ability to empathize, show respect to other person and remain calm.

These abilities surely help one achieve success not only in professional front but in each sphere of life, either with the relationship with others or with self.

Ways to let go and move on

We keep evolving time to time as we age. Just because you faced problems in past doesn’t mean you will still face problems in such circumstances, or something which was right for you in past not necessarily be right today. This fact can be applied in any situation, could be a relationship, a habit, a job, etc.

You keep discovering yourself deeply more and more gradually as you grow; you get to know what you truly desire, what ultimate outcome you want out of your life, with whom you want to stay and without whom you need to move on; and slowly you realize that these changes in life are required and gradually comes in your personality with circumstances and different happenings around you and inside you.

You might not feel too comfortable with the people were best friends in your school or college time, those specific routines you used to follow and the people you used to be with are no longer align with you current consciences.

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Circumstances and situations which force you to changes, let go and move on

There could be many situations and circumstances arise in our life which we never thought about in past or you might would want to be mentally and emotionally stronger because you have hurt by the ones you love one or several times. Other reasons could be, you have grown apart from someone.  Sometimes we are destined to meet someone from a set time period but we gradually evolve and understand that they are not compatible people for us and committed to misunderstand us and however moving on and letting go is the better solution for a positive flow of life. Other reason could be some negative people around you who are energy jabbers and has to cut out from your life slowly, or you need to overcome the fears which hold you back, etc.

Letting go is surely not easy, but it is necessary for our own well-being and growth.

Ways to move on and let go

Holding on the past often leads to discouragement and miseries, whereas letting go while cherishing the present moments help you realize how beautifully you've transformed and stepping towards your personal growth and becoming the person you'll love to be & destined to be. Let’s take a look at few ways

1. Take ownership and charge of your life: Whatever situations you face in life, always remember that no one is responsible for that except you. You are in completely charge of whatever occurs in your life, and should not blame other person or your parents your mentors etc. Unless and until you’ll learn to accept that you are the one who is responsible for all good or bad occur in your life, rather blaming others, you will never be able to help yourself grow as a person and take the learning of life. If you want the change in your life, you are the only one who can make it happen.
2. Accept with gratitude: Letting go is difficult, but when you be thankful for the good or bad experiences you had that helped you learn and grow, it becomes less complicated for you to let go and move on. When you accept the facts and make yourself ready to move on towards a better path, you gradually find strength and embrace the changes life offers.
3. Focus inward: To bring a change in your outer circumstances, it requisite to bring changes inside yourself. Meditate for a while, analyze the things deeply and find the right ways out. Solutions of all the minor or major problems occur in life is there inside you, all you need to do is self –discovery. Review yourself, who you are, your current lifestyle, the people around you and then analyze what change you need to bring, how you’ll bring that change, make positive adjustments.
4. Take a break for some time: Sometimes you have to see things from far away to have a bigger and clear view. Take a break, distance yourself for some time and explore newer things to transform your current state of mind. Do what you love the most, follow your innermost passion, spend time with yourself, and then return with entirely a different and transformed personality. A Better You!
5. Embrace the present and take a chance: The best way to let go the past is look at your present with acceptance and positive outlook. Look straight ahead towards you present and coming future, open yourself to experience newer realities, meet new people and set goals for future. When life throws some challenges on you and forces you to bring a change, there is some reason behind it, to take you towards a better life with more courage, more experience and more learning. So never hesitate to take a chance on something new. You destiny waits for your one decision to let go of the old memories and make way for newer ones.

Train your mind to think positive and manifest abundance

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Our thinking creates our attitude and our attitude defines the altitude of our life. Hence, we all must train our mind to think beyond our limited perceptions and find out the reason of almighty behind every tough situations we face.  By bringing this small positive change in your thoughts and attitude, you can certainly attract more and more reasons to smile and enjoy the journey of life.