Most of the people feel offended many of times due to various circumstances or situations life throws. But an open and free mind always stays detached from all the outer circumstances and knows that it is never the self which is offended, but it’s we and our mind which let us our inner self affected and make feel offended due to outer circumstances. If we don’t like an apple, that doesn’t mean the apple is bad, many other people love the same apple. So when someone insults you or doesn’t like you, that doesn’t mean you are bad, that simply means that the person has different choices. You know yourself the most; it’s an image of yourself to which you are attached, and that image doesn’t resonate with the image you form after or during an insult. Simply put, you highly affect your inner self and start believing on off put remarks by others on you, which even overpower your belief on yourself, and you start justifying yourself. But, if you would have been detached, if you would have kept your self-belief stronger, no offence would have been taken. Although, this doesn’t mean that you make your personality so stiff that no other person could help you become a better personality, which is against your growth and enlightenment. Criticism is always required, but self-evaluation is must. You must sit in silence, and evaluate your weaker areas to work upon in order to keep upgrading yourself and moving towards betterment and self-growth.
Detachment doesn’t mean you isolate yourself from socializing or accepting others’ views. It simply means making you inner self and belief so stronger that no negative outer circumstances would affect your inner being.
The power to mold and adapt oneself with different group of people in different situations requires:
Tolerance, acceptance, ability to face negative situations with a sense of detachment, ability to forgive, ability to be a detached observer of people’s actions and situations while raising your right opinions in positive and calm manner wherever required, cooperation, right and positive communication, understanding others perspective, focus more on positive traits of other person rather criticizing them for negative traits, ability to empathize, show respect to other person and remain calm.
These abilities surely help one achieve success not only in professional front but in each sphere of life, either with the relationship with others or with self.