Most of the people feel offended
many of times due to various circumstances or situations life throws. But an open
and free mind always stays detached from all the outer circumstances and knows
that it is never the self which is offended, but it’s we and our mind which let
us our inner self affected and make feel offended due to outer circumstances.
If we don’t like an apple, that doesn’t mean the apple is bad, many other
people love the same apple. So when someone insults you or doesn’t like you,
that doesn’t mean you are bad, that simply means that the person has different choices.
You know yourself the most; it’s an image of yourself to which you are attached,
and that image doesn’t resonate with the image you form after or during an
insult. Simply put, you highly affect your inner self and start believing on off
put remarks by others on you, which even overpower your belief on yourself, and
you start justifying yourself. But, if you would have been detached, if you
would have kept your self-belief stronger, no offence would have been taken. Although,
this doesn’t mean that you make your personality so stiff that no other person
could help you become a better personality, which is against your growth and
enlightenment. Criticism is always required, but self-evaluation is must. You
must sit in silence, and evaluate your weaker areas to work upon in order to
keep upgrading yourself and moving towards betterment and self-growth.
Detachment doesn’t mean you isolate
yourself from socializing or accepting others’ views. It simply means making
you inner self and belief so stronger that no negative outer circumstances
would affect your inner being.
The power to mold and adapt oneself with different group of
people in different situations requires:
Tolerance, acceptance, ability to face negative situations
with a sense of detachment, ability to forgive, ability to be a detached
observer of people’s actions and situations while raising your right opinions
in positive and calm manner wherever required, cooperation, right and positive
communication, understanding others perspective, focus more on positive traits
of other person rather criticizing them for negative traits, ability to
empathize, show respect to other person and remain calm.
These abilities surely help one achieve success not only in
professional front but in each sphere of life, either with the relationship
with others or with self.
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