Father’s Day Special - Why Dad's love is unique

Why Dad’s love is Different?

It’s not a secret that fathers are as important as mothers for a healthy child development, and at situations, even more.

‘Fatherhood is a unique and complex phenomenon, with a massive effect on children’s emotional and intellectual growth’ as per Psychology Today.

The reason behind the statement by Psychology Today is that the Mother’s love and Father’s love is qualitatively different. Fathers love dangerously, as their love is more expectant and instrumental. A father’s role is unique in child’s development, and regardless of the other factors, the role of a father cannot be replicated or replaced by any other entity.

There are several ways through which father’s presence makes a positive difference in a child’s life. Here are a few to mention;

Fathers parent differently

Fathers carry a unique style of communication and interaction with their children. There is a difference in the parenting of a mother and father, and this variety provides children with a broader and richer experience. Since, both, mothers and fathers have their own unique way of dealing with their adult life—the sheer experience is critical for their development. 

Fathers are playful

Fathers wrestle, teach how to throw a ball—they’re playful scary monsters who teach their small children when ‘enough is enough’ and ‘when to stop’. This is how children learn a healthy balance between aggression and timidity.

Fathers are confidence builder

Fathers teach how to ride bikes faster, encourage children to go to playgrounds, how to throw like a man; fathers push the limits of kids to show them the possibility.

This gradual push makes kids independent and confident. Markedly, this also leads to expand their experiences and considerably increase their confidence.

On this Father's Day, AK Mishra's Art of Success wishes all fathers, "Happy Father's Day"

7 Ways To Get Motivated & Start Taking Charge Of Your Life

While reading this post, you must have a long to-do list that might be popping up in your mind; may be your office work, family, kids, cleaning of house, etc. Although, we perform the same tasks every day, we still care to complete our day to day tasks and sadly we put off the things that actually make us feel balanced, healthier and happier.

We often catch ourselves thinking, I’ll begin working out, will try new meal, will go out with loved ones, or I’ll begin working upon what I love the most when I’ll have more time. But, in truth, that MORE TIME never comes, because we get used to of this procrastination.

Undoubtedly, we all are extremely busy in our lives, and in this hectic schedule, beings busy has become a convenient excuse. But ask yourself; is it really impossible to take out some time to do what we have been delaying since long? You know the answer!

If you feel you are not in charge of your life; you must watch this video and actually follow these 7 steps to bring a real transformation in your life.

How to Properly Complain without Offending Everyone?

If we look the internal structure of a complaint—you wouldn’t be surprised that it’s of the same pattern as a debate. It should go without saying that a debate must be attempted with an appropriate preparation—especially If you’d want to win it—so should a complaint.

Living in a capitalist society that constitutes people of varying mindsets and people who are driven by different motives—it’s inevitable that someone in our vicinity will hurt us in some way or the other. Markedly, it could be anyone; a colleague, a child, a friend or out of all, most likely—your partner.

People around us are often neglectful of something that matters excessively to us. With our definition, people surrounding us are mostly; thoughtless, brusk, offensive or unkind. We don’t often recognize our reactions to the maltreatment people throw at us. We might not agree but our reactions go right from our hearts and clearly depicts who we are. Our reactions can make a substantial difference between a life of a persistent bitterness, constant frustrations and our tolerable peaceful coexistence with so-called our ruthless society.  

An important section that contributes immensely to the art of living is sanely handling those who do us wrong and complain constructively. There are largely 3 main paths which one might opt to complain others;

1.       Shouting Panda

Here we shout, insult, belittle, explode to our extremes to crush our opponents. However, the thing that we often neglect is what lies behind these responses. It’s agitation and broadly a catastrophic feeling of betrayal and hurt. This unsettles us so much and hurts our dignity to such an extent that we find ourselves roaring our way to humiliation. But, at the same time—we also must acknowledge that Shouting Panda guarantees to prevent our complaint from ever being heard, let alone be resolved.

In our way to complain with all our rantings, we often end up offending who have offended us, which entirely dooms our original complaint against them. Here, we achieve nothing!

2.       Holding Panda

Here the victim says very little but hates very quietly and deeply. Here, one doesn’t complain directly from their disparity of ever being understood. This panda is often fueled with self-loathing and feels like he doesn’t deserve to be heard. It gets trapped in primitive self-hatred—resulting in an intense cynicism and melancholy and withdraws himself from the scene itself.

We often learn this technique of complaining in our childhood when we learn to swallow our pain and push it inside us. It often leaked with veiled aggression against those who have done us wrong.

Here too, we achieve nothing!

3.       Adult Panda

Here Panda is mature and knows what he wants to communicate. In order to master such a behavior, we should fundamentally work with a background sense that we don’t deserve meanness and also, that meanness won’t on its own ever be able to disturb us.

We mustn’t put ourselves in a complete chaos, just because someone has said something mean to us—by an insult.

Here are few things Adult Panda can teach us;

·         We should take the meanness from the world in a calm and strategic manner.

·         We must be careful to not belittle our opponents or insult.

·         We must concentrate on how we feel rather than pointing fingers at our opponents.

·         Replace – ‘You’re selfish and evil for doing this to me’ by saying – ‘I feel hurt’.

Even after all the precautions and advice from Adult Panda, we shouldn’t extend our faith to everyone that they would always understand our complaint and accept what we’re trying to convey. But, we voice our complaints anyway, because we know it’s not good to swallow our complaints. And, no one gets benefited from our silence in a long run.

By sketching an appropriate style of complaining, we can fill in our words with reasons and reflections and we can take our hesitant self on the path of Mature complaining—one step at a time.

Happy Complaining!

If you think there is a better way to express a complaint, do let us know in our comment section. We might include it in our article and help several people to improve their complaining.

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If you think you are going nowhere in life, hold on. Read this!

In today’s era of hectic schedules and fast-paced world, we all are in hurry to win the race. The race to complete the tasks, the race to get most effective and productive at the workplace, the race to prove yourself the best, but while running in this race, we often encounter a question in mind; where are we exactly heading towards? Are we going in the right direction? We often get disappointed when things don’t occur the way we expected. We are running in the race with a constant fear of left behind.

This is an era when 15 years old kids are developing codes, making websites and changing the overall definition of success. Some people at the age of 25 are running their own organizations or have become accomplished artists and traveling the world.

If at the age of 30, you are still drudging in 9 to 6 job, these questions must be popping up in your mind; what am I doing? Where have I reached? Am I even closer to this race? Is this what I wanted in my life?

Most of your friends are working in big MNCs with high profiles, updating their pictures on social networking sites, most of your friends are getting married and posting pictures of their honeymoon to Switzerland or some other exotic locations, which you cannot even think in the next 2 to 3 years.

Relax! Take a deep breath. Stop comparing yourself with others. Everyone is living their part; everyone is struggling with their problems and weaknesses; all you can see is what others actually choose to show you. The world is full of different kind of people; some get successful early in life; while some do wonders at the later part of life. Some get married at 25, while some get the love of their life at the age of 40. Some drop out the college and become an entrepreneur at the age of 35; while some after completing their MBA wait for 5 years to secure a good job.

Henry Ford designed his revolutionary Model T car at the age of 45, you never know what you’ll be doing at this age; may be something better than this. Always remember this wonderful fact; “You are uniquely, lovingly positioned on this earth by masters craftsman, don’t compare yourself to others.

There is a right time for everything to happen, and everyone is working on the basis of their Time Zone. You friends, your colleagues, your cousins, your siblings; some might seem going ahead of you while some may seem behind you. But all are working their own race, on their own lane in their own time. There is a different master plan for all created by the almighty. Let this plan work out the way it is, and stop comparing your plan and time with others. Everything happens for a reason. Where Obama took retirement at the age of 55, trump took the ownership at 70; they are in their own time zone and you are in yours.

Happiness cannot be achieved by achieving success at young age, or getting married or travelling the world; the true happiness is achieved when you start considering yourself unique, when you know your worth which cannot be compared with any other person in the world; when you feel satisfied with what you have and work to achieve what you desire without cribbing anymore by looking at others’ success, when you consider others’ success as an inspiration for you and when you begin competing not with others but with your own self.

Maybe the job you have lost wasn’t right for you; as you are meant to hone your skills for something great, maybe the person you are not with anymore wasn’t right for you; maybe you are meant for someone else; we get the things which are truly meant for us when we learn to accept, let go and open ourselves to receive.

When things are not going the way they should be; do not get disheartened; spend that time in polishing your personality, learning new skills and creating a better “you” for the future. You never know, you might be doing something really worthwhile in few years and you are busy today in cribbing, feeling bad and drowning your woes in alcohol. Just imagine the regret! Are you really that worthless? The answer is NO!. you can do wonders, it’s just you have to make yourself ready for the time when you’ll do wonders, so learn from your today’s mistakes, make yourself better and get ready for the future achievements.