Glowing from Within

‘I am in charge of how I feel and today I choose to be happy’

There is this girl at college we admire the most, not for the looks but for her intelligence or this colleague at work, who is jack of all trades, and is least concerned to be acknowledged. And that friend of yours who just called you for guidance to write an official mail. There could be anyone around, whom you admire or feel high in spirits with. That could even be you, the one who loves to spread positivity and smiles. Such are the people who have this influential personality to glow from within radiating the aura in others’ lives as well.

A kind, considerate and compassionate person has a beautiful soul and always rejoice their kindness in giving others. They will happily share their knowledge and even their materialistic things with others without any expectations. Although such people often forget to be kind to themselves and forget that it is completely selfless to be happy from within. A happy person will be more declined to help others and make them feel good as well.

In this article we will help you find the beautiful soul inside you, rejoice the magic of selfless love for others and radiate the aura in and around you.

Look within yourself: As per an old saying ‘there is fire with in each one of us’ and we just have to air this fire in the right direction to spread around the warmth and gleam. Look inside and explore the potentialities from within the chore of your heart. Where and what areas do you think you are best at? We won’t go into your weak points but your strengths to be specific. Look within yourself.

You! Yes, my dear, we are asking you, what’s the best thing or quality you possess? What in person do your friends tell that you excel at? We can feel you smile at this point. Okay now tell yourself, I am good at – dealing with odd situations, brainstorming with excellent ideas, breaking Herculean deals or even telling stories to a child. Do your friends call you odd hours when stuck in trouble or do you often find yourself feeding stray dogs not just because you are left with excess food, but only because you felt like; have you recently given away your favorite blanket for someone in need or were you able to feed that old man by the street today? Didn’t you just make someone smile because you felt that they need to?

If your answer to any of these or relative questions is a Yes, you may not believe and not even know but the little things you do, collectively form an image in the hearts of people for you. People would trust you and no matter how difficult the situation you might face in future, they will stand by you, if not all, atleast some of them. Because with these kind gestures, you knowingly or unknowingly spread the warmth and radiance of positivity and love which will come back to you at any moment; as whatever you sow, so shall you reap.

Life is small; and each one us is somewhere broken inside due to several reasons; it could be family problems, financial constraints, too much workload at office and no acknowledgement, recent breakup with boyfriend or girlfriend, and thousands of other reasons. And in such era, a small gesture of compassion would not only make others feel special; but will make you feel content too. And we all have those positive emotions; like an innocent child, who is filled with love, compassion, innocence. Just give wings to these qualities and spread around the selfless glow in you. If you think, it’s still missing, wink to yourself and develop one right away.

1.   Appreciate the Divine souls around you: When we ask you ‘what is the best thing you would appreciate in a person?’ what will be your response? Some would say, we find that person humble and polite, some would acknowledge the fact that their dear-most person is always there for them at any hour. Some would appreciate working skills of a particular colleague and others might just say we love our parents for all the sacrifices they’ve done for us.

We all have this one person whom we admire the most, no matter what relationship we share with them. If you acknowledge the fact that the person in your thoughts right now, have a different kind of aura that wide-spreads enlightening your and others life as well, you must definitely appreciate his/her uniqueness and try to learn and gain from his positives. Find ways and keep doing little things to appreciate those kind and generous souls who not just add exuberance to their lives, but will brighten your life as well.

2.  Practice acknowledgement: Start your day with a grateful heart. Make it your goal to appreciate people for every little thing they do for you or someone else. It is a great way to live in positivity and love yourself while appreciating others for what they do, knowingly or unknowingly. A simple line saying ‘You’re an awesome colleague’ might make them feel good. Or a genuine appreciation to your child would motivate him to do things even better next time.

Remember you told your friend how beautiful she looked in her new dress and she may have waved you in silly ignorance but in reality, she would’ve loved that remark. Keep making happy remarks to people for little things they do. There are people who live in a negative aura, pissed off from life and worries. Your constant appreciation and acknowledgment will help them learn to be positive about themselves and radiate the same around. Who knows they might even start practicing conscious acts of kindness and spreading love while also adding positivity to their own life. Even a thank you with a smile, will help people who are ignorant towards their explicit positives.

3.    Let words create wonders: Do you like to read fictions? I mean most of us would really say Yes. Who would not want to read a story that roughly started somewhere and ended with an unexpected smile? Or maybe with a tear that didn’t fall, but made you bring back those beautiful emotions which were lost somewhere long time back.  

Our life is quite similar! There are highs and lows, extremes and blues but at the end of every situation we are either left with a smile or a lesson. In reality, we never loose; and everything would make perfect sense. That’s the magic of life!

Self-love and positive belief system will help you overcome any situation. You must be wondering why are we asking you to focus on self-love, appreciation and positivity. You will understand this better when you allow your thoughts and doubts flow free in writing. Yes, we want you to write.

Writing is an exploration where you start from nothing and learn as you go ahead.

There is a story we all are living and only we can write it better than anyone else. If you think you are not a writer, we disagree! All you need to do is let your hands bleed words and your mind cross out the wrong ones. Now you would obviously not want to read the bad part of your story? Would you?

That’s where the magic happens. Write your experiences and maintain a journal. At the end of each experience of life you will be able to find positives on your part and how magically things turned in your favor, sooner or later. Process of loving oneself and spreading the aura of positivity will start within itself. Weird though, give it a shot; it works like Pixie dust from northern lights. You just won’t know and the magic will happen.

To give light to others, you have to glow yourself: With time and experiences you will be able to realize that the only person who is responsible for your happiness and positive outlook for life is YOU. Others can sure add to your contentment, but you will never need someone to complete you. You’re complete in yourself. Embrace the solitude and allow your thoughts, feelings and beliefs about yourself flow freely. Ingrain the positive energy hidden underneath your protective shield and radiate the same to enlighten the world with love, peace, compassion and prosperity in life of one and all.

‘Nothing can dim the light that shines from within’

Author: AK Mishra

Willpower - Overrated as ‘the key to success’

What is Willpower? How do we define it?

Willpower can be described as a strong determination that allows you to achieve something, and stay stick to the desire, no matter how difficult the path is. A strong willpower also helps us calmly deal with delays in achievements. Let’s put a good example here to explain willpower better; we, as employees or workers in an organization always get up early in the morning, regardless of how tiring the previous day was. Why? Because our willpower constantly encourages us to avoid getting late or taking a leave at office as it might have negative impact to our productivity.

In today’s era, willpower has become an essential component for success, but has it always been this way?

No. If we go back to the history, people didn’t require willpower,   they used to follow their general instincts to survive and succeed. But with the evolving time, we humans have set lot of rules and boundaries for self and for others to get things in order. Each one of us is rushing to leave behind every other person in the race of competition. And we are hardwired with the belief system that we only will achieve success if we will follow these set rules and regulations.

As per the recent study and an experiment, where students were asked to have the marshmallow right away or wait for 20 minutes and then eat to get extra reward. The study showed that the students who waited for 20 minutes to get the double reward are fared better in later life, than those who ate the marshmallow instantly.

So, it proves that yes, Willpower is important to succeed and people are emphasizing more on strengthening the willpower in today’s era.

Even most of the organizations organize special trainings for their employees to help them strengthen their willpower.

But there are few things which sometimes overpower the willpower and should not be overlooked while traversing the terrain towards your goal. Those few things are; our previous failures which often leave us in discouraged state of mind, our physical health which keeps us drained every day and does not allow us to begin the day with right motivation and courage, and our emotions; low emotions often reduce our motivation level.

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Something just popped up in your mind and said that yes, it happens and you have experienced it many times, right? We know it, it happens; and these reasons get overlooked until and unless we face them in our lives. Even if you have unlimited will power, it has its limits, when you face the above mentioned reasons which often holds you back to get up and continue the race. Besides will power, your mental, emotional and physical power play major role. For eg. When you resist getting into an argument which makes no sense to you, it is the emotional and mental power that helps you resist more than the will power.  When you go to the meeting and use various tactics to crack it, it is your mental power. For petty most tasks like the craving for our favourite food or a dress we wish to purchase, we have all the will but our emotional and mental power stops us for varied reasons like health or finance issues respectively. Hence, Willpower is a limited resource, and the other components of success should be at work at times when your willpower starts depleting.

Get success with limited Willpower

Now, when you are aware that willpower is a limited resource, and there are other key components to achieve success, like a plan, a systematic approach; put the plan and systematic approach first and then compliment it with Willpower. Here, with systematic approach, I am also trying to encourage you to create the right environment, right conditions, right set of mind along with right guidance and planning that assure your success. If you will successfully develop a plan, a right environment, right resources; then willpower will act as an added advantage to help you get success.

1. Get in the company of like-minded people who have are experience and who can guide you towards the path of your goal
2. Stay happy and get out of all the emotional dilemmas which may become an hindrance to your success
3. Set right resources for you, the right strategy, systematic plan to achieve your goal
4. Replace your old beliefs and old conditioning of mind – if you have failed earlier, it doesn’t mean you will fail again. Failures are just a stepping stone to success. So, let go of the regrets, rather, use the past mistakes as learning and go for it again. Success will be yours!

Remember, you are reading this article because you have an aim, you have the dream, you have the patience, you are getting right guidance, and you have the will to achieve success. All you need is to work on the above mentioned aeas now to get success in each sphere of life. Good Luck!

EQUANIMOUS – What does it mean and Why it’s important?

Being successful is not a goal—it’s an everyday journey. It is said that your degree of success in life directly depends on how you use your mind and body. There are essential qualities that one should cultivate towards their body and mind. There are proper well-defined steps to be successful in the world. The two fundamental qualities are that; you must be able to harness the prowess of human mind and the human body.

Harness the Mind

To harness the human mind—the one quality that you must possess is to be Equanimous.

EQUANIMOUS

Adjective

1.       In full control of your faculties

Equanimous gives you access to different dimensions of your mind. If there is no equanimity, in a skewed sense of mind, your ability to use your mind is substantially reduced. Another major dimension is on the level of your energy, both physiologically and internally—one must be exuberant. It’s only when one energizes the exuberance within himself, he is able to have an ability to find a solution for the various complications of life.

Success will come to you much more easily, but beyond this, to be successful—one needs insight, inspiration and integrity.

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Insight: With this, you pay attention to your life around you in such a way that you get to see something that most of the people avoid in day-to-day life.

Inspiration: With this, one must be constantly inspired. It’s is important to understand why you’re doing—what you’re doing.  To look at the larger dimension of your actions and figure out the contribution that you make through your simple acts or whatever you are doing for that matter. You must acknowledge that every action that you take in your life is a contribution to some dimension in this world.  Someone or other gets affected by your actions—so the key is to be conscious of your actions and how it affects your surroundings, and that will provide us with a constant inspiration.

Integrity: Integrity is a crucial part of your success because your actions that you carry in this world exhibits an aura of trustiness around you—that you generate on the daily business. How many people you effect on the daily basis determines your daily efforts. The amount of trustiness will directly impact and enhance, simply because people pave the way for trustworthy people, rather than creating impediments.

How not to care what anyone thinks of you?

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One of our most prominent fears which haunt us when we socialize in this world and mingle with others—is that we may in our hearts be not interesting, rather boring. But the good news and fundamental truth too is that no one is ever truly boring. They are only in danger of coming across as such when they either fail to understand their deeper selves or don’t dare or know how to communicate with others.

There is simply no such thing as an inherently boring person or thing—is one of the great lessons of art. Many of the most satisfying artworks don’t feature rare elements, they are evidently about the ordinary, looked from a special perspective, with unusual sincerity and openness to varnished experience.

For example—look at the painting of Whistler’s Mother by James McNeill. It’s a simple depiction of artist’s mother sitting on a wooden chair against a gray wall. Outwardly the scene in the painting is utterly simple and could initially appear to be deeply unpromising material for a painting. Yet, like any great artist, McNeill knew how to interrogate his own perceptions—in a fresh, clear, underivative manner and translated them accurately into his medium—knitting a small masterpiece out of the thread of everyday life. And just as there’s no such thing as a boring everyday life, so too there could be no such thing as an innately boring person.

Humans witnessed in its essence with honesty and without artifice is always interesting.

When we call a person boring—we’re just pointing to someone who doesn’t have the courage for concentration to tell us what it’s like to be them. By contrast, we invariably prove compelling when we succeed in saying how and what we truly desire, envy, regret mourn or dream. In a simpler form if anyone recuperates the real data on what it’s like to exist is guaranteed to have material with which one can captivate others.

An interesting person isn’t always someone with whom obviously and outwardly interesting things have happened: like someone who travelled the world or met importance dignitaries, nor someone who talks about the weighty themes of culture, history or science. On the contrast, an interesting person is someone who can give us faithful accounts, drama, and strangeness of being alive.

Then, what are some of the elements that get in the way of is being as interesting as we in fact are;

Our Loss of Faith

We feel boring and exhibit the same feeling when there is a lack of faith. We often believe that it really could be feelings that would stand the best chance of interesting others. When we tell an anecdote, we majorly concentrate on giving the outward details—like about the weather, people who were involved, what time was it—rather than maintaining courage to report the layer of feelings, beneath the surface—the intricate facts which flashes the moment of guilt, the sudden sexual attraction, the humiliating sulk, that strange euphoria at the middle of the night, every small detail. We should acknowledge that our neglect is not just an oversight, but it could be a deliberate strategy to mold our ideas of dignity and normality. We lack the nerve to look more closely within.

For say, most five-years-old are far less boring than most 45-years old. What’s interesting is that kids don’t necessarily have exciting feelings, far from it, but their sheer frankness and uncensored version of their feelings are what makes their insights interesting.

Our inner-struggle to appear normal

We all feel boring not by our nature—so much as by a fateful will that begins its effect in teenage years to appear normal, even when we’re honest about our feelings. We may still prove boring because we don’t know them as well as we should, so we get stuck at the level of insisting on an emotion rather than explaining it. Any situation is extremely exciting, awful or beautiful, but not to be able to provide those around us with any of the sorts of related details and examples that would help them understand why. We can end up boring not so much because we don’t want to share our lives, as because we don’t yet know them well enough to do so.

Luckily, the gift of being interesting is not an exceptional talent. It requires only direction, honesty and focus. The person we call fascinating is someone alive to what we all deeply want from social intercourses, which is an uncensored glimpse of what the brief waking dream called life feels like.  Through the eyes of another person and reassurance, we are not entirely alone with all that feels most puzzling, strange and strong within us.