Glowing from Within

‘I am in charge of how I feel and today I choose to be happy’

There is this girl at college we admire the most, not for the looks but for her intelligence or this colleague at work, who is jack of all trades, and is least concerned to be acknowledged. And that friend of yours who just called you for guidance to write an official mail. There could be anyone around, whom you admire or feel high in spirits with. That could even be you, the one who loves to spread positivity and smiles. Such are the people who have this influential personality to glow from within radiating the aura in others’ lives as well.

A kind, considerate and compassionate person has a beautiful soul and always rejoice their kindness in giving others. They will happily share their knowledge and even their materialistic things with others without any expectations. Although such people often forget to be kind to themselves and forget that it is completely selfless to be happy from within. A happy person will be more declined to help others and make them feel good as well.

In this article we will help you find the beautiful soul inside you, rejoice the magic of selfless love for others and radiate the aura in and around you.

Look within yourself: As per an old saying ‘there is fire with in each one of us’ and we just have to air this fire in the right direction to spread around the warmth and gleam. Look inside and explore the potentialities from within the chore of your heart. Where and what areas do you think you are best at? We won’t go into your weak points but your strengths to be specific. Look within yourself.

You! Yes, my dear, we are asking you, what’s the best thing or quality you possess? What in person do your friends tell that you excel at? We can feel you smile at this point. Okay now tell yourself, I am good at – dealing with odd situations, brainstorming with excellent ideas, breaking Herculean deals or even telling stories to a child. Do your friends call you odd hours when stuck in trouble or do you often find yourself feeding stray dogs not just because you are left with excess food, but only because you felt like; have you recently given away your favorite blanket for someone in need or were you able to feed that old man by the street today? Didn’t you just make someone smile because you felt that they need to?

If your answer to any of these or relative questions is a Yes, you may not believe and not even know but the little things you do, collectively form an image in the hearts of people for you. People would trust you and no matter how difficult the situation you might face in future, they will stand by you, if not all, atleast some of them. Because with these kind gestures, you knowingly or unknowingly spread the warmth and radiance of positivity and love which will come back to you at any moment; as whatever you sow, so shall you reap.

Life is small; and each one us is somewhere broken inside due to several reasons; it could be family problems, financial constraints, too much workload at office and no acknowledgement, recent breakup with boyfriend or girlfriend, and thousands of other reasons. And in such era, a small gesture of compassion would not only make others feel special; but will make you feel content too. And we all have those positive emotions; like an innocent child, who is filled with love, compassion, innocence. Just give wings to these qualities and spread around the selfless glow in you. If you think, it’s still missing, wink to yourself and develop one right away.

1.   Appreciate the Divine souls around you: When we ask you ‘what is the best thing you would appreciate in a person?’ what will be your response? Some would say, we find that person humble and polite, some would acknowledge the fact that their dear-most person is always there for them at any hour. Some would appreciate working skills of a particular colleague and others might just say we love our parents for all the sacrifices they’ve done for us.

We all have this one person whom we admire the most, no matter what relationship we share with them. If you acknowledge the fact that the person in your thoughts right now, have a different kind of aura that wide-spreads enlightening your and others life as well, you must definitely appreciate his/her uniqueness and try to learn and gain from his positives. Find ways and keep doing little things to appreciate those kind and generous souls who not just add exuberance to their lives, but will brighten your life as well.

2.  Practice acknowledgement: Start your day with a grateful heart. Make it your goal to appreciate people for every little thing they do for you or someone else. It is a great way to live in positivity and love yourself while appreciating others for what they do, knowingly or unknowingly. A simple line saying ‘You’re an awesome colleague’ might make them feel good. Or a genuine appreciation to your child would motivate him to do things even better next time.

Remember you told your friend how beautiful she looked in her new dress and she may have waved you in silly ignorance but in reality, she would’ve loved that remark. Keep making happy remarks to people for little things they do. There are people who live in a negative aura, pissed off from life and worries. Your constant appreciation and acknowledgment will help them learn to be positive about themselves and radiate the same around. Who knows they might even start practicing conscious acts of kindness and spreading love while also adding positivity to their own life. Even a thank you with a smile, will help people who are ignorant towards their explicit positives.

3.    Let words create wonders: Do you like to read fictions? I mean most of us would really say Yes. Who would not want to read a story that roughly started somewhere and ended with an unexpected smile? Or maybe with a tear that didn’t fall, but made you bring back those beautiful emotions which were lost somewhere long time back.  

Our life is quite similar! There are highs and lows, extremes and blues but at the end of every situation we are either left with a smile or a lesson. In reality, we never loose; and everything would make perfect sense. That’s the magic of life!

Self-love and positive belief system will help you overcome any situation. You must be wondering why are we asking you to focus on self-love, appreciation and positivity. You will understand this better when you allow your thoughts and doubts flow free in writing. Yes, we want you to write.

Writing is an exploration where you start from nothing and learn as you go ahead.

There is a story we all are living and only we can write it better than anyone else. If you think you are not a writer, we disagree! All you need to do is let your hands bleed words and your mind cross out the wrong ones. Now you would obviously not want to read the bad part of your story? Would you?

That’s where the magic happens. Write your experiences and maintain a journal. At the end of each experience of life you will be able to find positives on your part and how magically things turned in your favor, sooner or later. Process of loving oneself and spreading the aura of positivity will start within itself. Weird though, give it a shot; it works like Pixie dust from northern lights. You just won’t know and the magic will happen.

To give light to others, you have to glow yourself: With time and experiences you will be able to realize that the only person who is responsible for your happiness and positive outlook for life is YOU. Others can sure add to your contentment, but you will never need someone to complete you. You’re complete in yourself. Embrace the solitude and allow your thoughts, feelings and beliefs about yourself flow freely. Ingrain the positive energy hidden underneath your protective shield and radiate the same to enlighten the world with love, peace, compassion and prosperity in life of one and all.

‘Nothing can dim the light that shines from within’

Author: AK Mishra

Willpower - Overrated as ‘the key to success’

What is Willpower? How do we define it?

Willpower can be described as a strong determination that allows you to achieve something, and stay stick to the desire, no matter how difficult the path is. A strong willpower also helps us calmly deal with delays in achievements. Let’s put a good example here to explain willpower better; we, as employees or workers in an organization always get up early in the morning, regardless of how tiring the previous day was. Why? Because our willpower constantly encourages us to avoid getting late or taking a leave at office as it might have negative impact to our productivity.

In today’s era, willpower has become an essential component for success, but has it always been this way?

No. If we go back to the history, people didn’t require willpower,   they used to follow their general instincts to survive and succeed. But with the evolving time, we humans have set lot of rules and boundaries for self and for others to get things in order. Each one of us is rushing to leave behind every other person in the race of competition. And we are hardwired with the belief system that we only will achieve success if we will follow these set rules and regulations.

As per the recent study and an experiment, where students were asked to have the marshmallow right away or wait for 20 minutes and then eat to get extra reward. The study showed that the students who waited for 20 minutes to get the double reward are fared better in later life, than those who ate the marshmallow instantly.

So, it proves that yes, Willpower is important to succeed and people are emphasizing more on strengthening the willpower in today’s era.

Even most of the organizations organize special trainings for their employees to help them strengthen their willpower.

But there are few things which sometimes overpower the willpower and should not be overlooked while traversing the terrain towards your goal. Those few things are; our previous failures which often leave us in discouraged state of mind, our physical health which keeps us drained every day and does not allow us to begin the day with right motivation and courage, and our emotions; low emotions often reduce our motivation level.

Courtesy: AK Mishra Library

Something just popped up in your mind and said that yes, it happens and you have experienced it many times, right? We know it, it happens; and these reasons get overlooked until and unless we face them in our lives. Even if you have unlimited will power, it has its limits, when you face the above mentioned reasons which often holds you back to get up and continue the race. Besides will power, your mental, emotional and physical power play major role. For eg. When you resist getting into an argument which makes no sense to you, it is the emotional and mental power that helps you resist more than the will power.  When you go to the meeting and use various tactics to crack it, it is your mental power. For petty most tasks like the craving for our favourite food or a dress we wish to purchase, we have all the will but our emotional and mental power stops us for varied reasons like health or finance issues respectively. Hence, Willpower is a limited resource, and the other components of success should be at work at times when your willpower starts depleting.

Get success with limited Willpower

Now, when you are aware that willpower is a limited resource, and there are other key components to achieve success, like a plan, a systematic approach; put the plan and systematic approach first and then compliment it with Willpower. Here, with systematic approach, I am also trying to encourage you to create the right environment, right conditions, right set of mind along with right guidance and planning that assure your success. If you will successfully develop a plan, a right environment, right resources; then willpower will act as an added advantage to help you get success.

1. Get in the company of like-minded people who have are experience and who can guide you towards the path of your goal
2. Stay happy and get out of all the emotional dilemmas which may become an hindrance to your success
3. Set right resources for you, the right strategy, systematic plan to achieve your goal
4. Replace your old beliefs and old conditioning of mind – if you have failed earlier, it doesn’t mean you will fail again. Failures are just a stepping stone to success. So, let go of the regrets, rather, use the past mistakes as learning and go for it again. Success will be yours!

Remember, you are reading this article because you have an aim, you have the dream, you have the patience, you are getting right guidance, and you have the will to achieve success. All you need is to work on the above mentioned aeas now to get success in each sphere of life. Good Luck!

Father’s Day Special - Why Dad's love is unique

Why Dad’s love is Different?

It’s not a secret that fathers are as important as mothers for a healthy child development, and at situations, even more.

‘Fatherhood is a unique and complex phenomenon, with a massive effect on children’s emotional and intellectual growth’ as per Psychology Today.

The reason behind the statement by Psychology Today is that the Mother’s love and Father’s love is qualitatively different. Fathers love dangerously, as their love is more expectant and instrumental. A father’s role is unique in child’s development, and regardless of the other factors, the role of a father cannot be replicated or replaced by any other entity.

There are several ways through which father’s presence makes a positive difference in a child’s life. Here are a few to mention;

Fathers parent differently

Fathers carry a unique style of communication and interaction with their children. There is a difference in the parenting of a mother and father, and this variety provides children with a broader and richer experience. Since, both, mothers and fathers have their own unique way of dealing with their adult life—the sheer experience is critical for their development. 

Fathers are playful

Fathers wrestle, teach how to throw a ball—they’re playful scary monsters who teach their small children when ‘enough is enough’ and ‘when to stop’. This is how children learn a healthy balance between aggression and timidity.

Fathers are confidence builder

Fathers teach how to ride bikes faster, encourage children to go to playgrounds, how to throw like a man; fathers push the limits of kids to show them the possibility.

This gradual push makes kids independent and confident. Markedly, this also leads to expand their experiences and considerably increase their confidence.

On this Father's Day, AK Mishra's Art of Success wishes all fathers, "Happy Father's Day"

7 Ways To Get Motivated & Start Taking Charge Of Your Life

While reading this post, you must have a long to-do list that might be popping up in your mind; may be your office work, family, kids, cleaning of house, etc. Although, we perform the same tasks every day, we still care to complete our day to day tasks and sadly we put off the things that actually make us feel balanced, healthier and happier.

We often catch ourselves thinking, I’ll begin working out, will try new meal, will go out with loved ones, or I’ll begin working upon what I love the most when I’ll have more time. But, in truth, that MORE TIME never comes, because we get used to of this procrastination.

Undoubtedly, we all are extremely busy in our lives, and in this hectic schedule, beings busy has become a convenient excuse. But ask yourself; is it really impossible to take out some time to do what we have been delaying since long? You know the answer!

If you feel you are not in charge of your life; you must watch this video and actually follow these 7 steps to bring a real transformation in your life.

If you think you are going nowhere in life, hold on. Read this!

In today’s era of hectic schedules and fast-paced world, we all are in hurry to win the race. The race to complete the tasks, the race to get most effective and productive at the workplace, the race to prove yourself the best, but while running in this race, we often encounter a question in mind; where are we exactly heading towards? Are we going in the right direction? We often get disappointed when things don’t occur the way we expected. We are running in the race with a constant fear of left behind.

This is an era when 15 years old kids are developing codes, making websites and changing the overall definition of success. Some people at the age of 25 are running their own organizations or have become accomplished artists and traveling the world.

If at the age of 30, you are still drudging in 9 to 6 job, these questions must be popping up in your mind; what am I doing? Where have I reached? Am I even closer to this race? Is this what I wanted in my life?

Most of your friends are working in big MNCs with high profiles, updating their pictures on social networking sites, most of your friends are getting married and posting pictures of their honeymoon to Switzerland or some other exotic locations, which you cannot even think in the next 2 to 3 years.

Relax! Take a deep breath. Stop comparing yourself with others. Everyone is living their part; everyone is struggling with their problems and weaknesses; all you can see is what others actually choose to show you. The world is full of different kind of people; some get successful early in life; while some do wonders at the later part of life. Some get married at 25, while some get the love of their life at the age of 40. Some drop out the college and become an entrepreneur at the age of 35; while some after completing their MBA wait for 5 years to secure a good job.

Henry Ford designed his revolutionary Model T car at the age of 45, you never know what you’ll be doing at this age; may be something better than this. Always remember this wonderful fact; “You are uniquely, lovingly positioned on this earth by masters craftsman, don’t compare yourself to others.

There is a right time for everything to happen, and everyone is working on the basis of their Time Zone. You friends, your colleagues, your cousins, your siblings; some might seem going ahead of you while some may seem behind you. But all are working their own race, on their own lane in their own time. There is a different master plan for all created by the almighty. Let this plan work out the way it is, and stop comparing your plan and time with others. Everything happens for a reason. Where Obama took retirement at the age of 55, trump took the ownership at 70; they are in their own time zone and you are in yours.

Happiness cannot be achieved by achieving success at young age, or getting married or travelling the world; the true happiness is achieved when you start considering yourself unique, when you know your worth which cannot be compared with any other person in the world; when you feel satisfied with what you have and work to achieve what you desire without cribbing anymore by looking at others’ success, when you consider others’ success as an inspiration for you and when you begin competing not with others but with your own self.

Maybe the job you have lost wasn’t right for you; as you are meant to hone your skills for something great, maybe the person you are not with anymore wasn’t right for you; maybe you are meant for someone else; we get the things which are truly meant for us when we learn to accept, let go and open ourselves to receive.

When things are not going the way they should be; do not get disheartened; spend that time in polishing your personality, learning new skills and creating a better “you” for the future. You never know, you might be doing something really worthwhile in few years and you are busy today in cribbing, feeling bad and drowning your woes in alcohol. Just imagine the regret! Are you really that worthless? The answer is NO!. you can do wonders, it’s just you have to make yourself ready for the time when you’ll do wonders, so learn from your today’s mistakes, make yourself better and get ready for the future achievements.