Many a times in life, we get
stuck in such circumstances where we unable to think beyond our present
dilemmas. These circumstances and our reactions to them determine our feelings.
Have you ever found yourself lost, confused, completely stuck and drowning in
mud? You want to move out of the situation but you are unable to. And then it
further arise fear, anxiety and even depression.
But what if you get to know that
being stuck, or the situation is not actually a problem, but the problem indeed
lies in how we perceive the situation. Being stuck is a label that we often
give to a feeling, and then we start believing and accept this label for a
longer period of time. We encounter such moments in life when nothing works,
all are plans go up in smoke; and that is where the feeling of anxiety arises
and we call it being stuck.
Now the question is why do we stuck
You feel stuck when your life
takes entirely different path than you ever thought or planned of. You feel
stuck when you fail to be at the place where you wanted to be. Now, why does it
happen? Does life really want to give us some sad moments? Is life really too
harsh on us? No! Relax. Surrender at the moment. Keep quiet for a while.
Sometimes, some moments cannot be controlled by you, so at that moment all you
can do is calm yourself, and notice what life brings to you. Being stuck is
like quicksand. The more you try to get out, the deeper you sink. So stop
trying to get out, just surrender!
Your mind would want to control,
push and manipulate, because we human get insecure, want to be loved and
remarkable; and that’s very normal, human tendency. But you can rather do
better things in this situation to let the universe work for you to bring you
out of the storm. Here are three things to do:
Surrender
When you feel yourself stuck, give
up and surrender yourself to the situation. Notice the feeling inside you and
say it loud ‘I am stuck, and something is going wrong’. And then take a deep
breath. You’ll realize that actually that’s a label you have given to the
particular situation or a feeling. You are not stuck; you are actually getting
ready to explore a newer path. I understand that by surrendering, the feeling
of anxiety will not vanish away, but you’ll realize that you will not have that
grip on you anymore that holds you back.
Surrender and be open to accept
whatever comes; do this when everything actually goes out of control and you
feel that now nothing can happen from you end. Enjoy being stuck; it’s a part
of a learning process; just in case if you will not get anything out of the
situation, you will get a learning for sure. The most interesting fact is, when
you’ll start enjoying being stuck, you will not be stuck anymore; because being
stuck was all in your head only.
Enjoy the moment
The first step is to surrender.
So when you have surrendered, stop thinking about that area of your life too
much; pay your attention to other things. Do what you love to do the most;
whether it’s dancing, music, painting, hanging around, go for a movie, go for a
walk or anything that gives you peace and sense of joy; may be meditation too. Remember,
you are not stuck in every area of your life; it’s just a part of life in which
you are stuck and that too for a small period of time that will pass on. I
acknowledge, it’s not easy to stop that feeling anxious during the hours of
sorrows, but maybe that’s how you’ll explore something better in you; because
when your mind is at peace; it works well. Do what you can, but go easy on
yourself.
Write
At times, when you feel stuck,
try writing!
You don’t need a system in front
of you. Just get a piece of paper and start writing. Or it’s completely your
choice; write wherever you want. The motive is to throw out all nasty bits.
Write down everything going on in your mind at that moment, no censoring, and
no holding back.
The more you do this, the more
you feel your thoughts changing and transforming. Become aware of what is going
in your head, and then slowly let go, because by keeping it inside, you are
only creating your own sufferings.
You need to understand, that
sometimes, pushing is not required, all you need is to have faith in the
universe and let the things get arranged for you; not the way you wanted, but
may be the way universe wants to give to you.
Let things be; at the end, everything is going to make perfect sense!
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