Thursday, 23 July 2015

Newly Marriage-A Newly founded bond (AK Mishra's Art of Success for Human Relations)

“Getting married is not the fulfillment, but getting along together throughout the life with each other is the real accomplishment”


Relationships are made in heaven!! This is what we used to hear while growing up. And marriage is that beautiful bond which not only connects two hearts together, but joins two families as well. A couple goes through numerous ups and downs and good or bad experiences in their married life. Someone’s good experience in married life becomes an inspiration for numerous to-be wed couple, whereas, a bad experience of another couple makes someone away from the constitution of marriage.



Marriage is altogether a different experience, especially for a girl as she makes more sacrifices. She has to leave her family behind and adapt to a new culture, embrace new relationships and a new lifestyle which is undoubtedly a very challenging task. Bride need some time to get accustomed to the new atmosphere and surroundings so the groom and his family need to be patient with the new member of the family and they ought not keep close tabs on her. Every couple needs to invest considerable amount of time to marriage, even to those who have been in a love relationship for a long time. Trust is the cornerstone of successful marriage so couples need to establish mutual trust and count on each other unconditionally    Marriage brings many changes, newer responsibilities, numerous adjustments at the initial stage. The Couple must understand, that beside anticipating and appreciating the good traits in the partner, they will have to accept the worst side too, as no one is perfect. There could be difficulties in marriage, but there is also an enduring sense of “us”rather just “you and me”. Therefore, positive mindset towards your partner and towards the relationship is required to positively handle the sensitive situations.
Although love is an essential pillar for a happy married life, but except love there are also other important factors on which the foundation of successful marriage is built upon.
1.       Understanding
2.       Respect/acceptance
3.       Loyalty/IHonesty
The journey of successful and happy married life banks upon good understanding between couple. Couple having faith and understanding sail through the rough patches and hurdles of life swimmingly.

Both the partners need to respect each other’s values, beliefs and preferences. These could be in any form, may be in career preference, or other liking or disliking which could be distinguished too between the two partners thoughts and beliefs, but knowing the fact that two  human beings cannot have same beliefs every time and respecting each other’s preference is another essential pillar to lead a successful married life. 


Loyalty and trust should co-exist in a marriage.  It is the human tendency that if another person shows blind trust on you, you naturally start feeling a sense of responsibility to not to break the trust of that person. So before you expect loyalty from your partner, show him/her the same level of trust  Honesty is the foundation of any relationship and requires at every sphere of life, be it in personal or professional life. Marriage is  such a supreme form of commitment, if you cannot be loyal to your soul-mate, how can you be loyal to anyone in life.

How to  keep your passion alive and kicking in a wedlock .
The intimate connection between the two partners is often the glue that holds a marriage. As a human being, we have a tendency to be hard-wired to crave a special sense of intimacy with our partner. But there is also a fact that has been noticed in couples is that along with the time flows, the level of affection and intimacy becomes lesser. The major reason why it happens is because we drown us into the sea of various responsibilities, and let that passion eliminate from the relationship. To keep that passion alive, The couple must steal out the time to spend with each other, keep doing things for each other which makes him/her feel special and keep a sense of romance alive in a relationship. Therefore, with this little creativity and careful attention, you can always keep that passion and affection animate in your married life and keep the home fires burning.

Value relationships without losing yourself in the new amalgamation.
A harmonious wedlock rests upon accepting and respecting each other’s views, opinions, beliefs and values. A couple must openly discuss even the trivial issues so that no major issue could crop up in the future. 
At the end, it’s your individuality which attracts your partner, so never caste it aside  in the excitement of knowing your partner better. This is the most critical situation where you must make conscious decisions to integrate your life while still maintaining your individuality.



  
  

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