Many parents feel that it’s futile to teach values to a
preschooler or kids at very young age.
But that’s a huge delusion. Here are some values which every kid must
learn in their preschooler stage or say by the age of 5.
Value 1: Fairness
Children must be taught to realize, accept their mistakes
and apologize without keeping any negative emotions like ego.
Kids have a very basic tendency to get annoyed when they
lose in a game, which makes them burst out of anger as a result they either hit
the other kid or destroy their toy or game. Hence, parents must teach their
kids to make amends in a proactive way, which makes them a calm and positive
person. If you’ve encountered your child behaving or acting badly towards
someone, help him/her think of a way to compensate. Adapting these gestures by
kid at the young age will help him/her treating people fairly and help them
negotiate the complicated world of peer-group relationships.
Value 2: Mentally examine things/good judgment
Trying to put yourself in someone else’s shoes is a
decisive building block for other caring emotions. This is how we teach our
kids to develop compassion, gratitude and hope.
Value 3: Loyalty/morality
Kids are reflection of their parents. Their first source
of learning for a kid is always parents. Hence, in order to encourage honesty
and truthfulness in your child, be a truthful person yourself. You are the
first and foremost source for a child from which he/she takes his cues, so it’s
important for you to avoid any betrayal, even innoxious one. For instance, asking
your kid not to tell mommy that we’ve got candy, or such things can develop a
sense of dishonesty in your kid’s behaviors. Let your child always be truthful
with others.
Another way to help your child develop sense of loyalty or
honesty is instead of overreacting if your child lies; help him/her find a
right way to tell the truth.
Value 4: Love and compassion
Parents often believe and think that children are
naturally affectionate, generous and loving. Although this is very true, but to
let these loving sentiments last forever, they need to retaliated. Due to busy
schedule of parents every day, it’s very frightening to realize that a child
rarely hears “I love you” from his/her parents in a day. Let your child
encounter or experience the love and compassion you show or give to people in
your life. Talking to your children how much you love their mother/father, siblings,
cousins, grandparents, uncle or aunts is a great way to demonstrate the sense
of love and affection to your child.
You can practically experience this by saying I love you
to your child and hearing back I love you too from them. The more hugs and
kisses you will give to your child, more your home will be filled with love and
affection, and your child will feel more free to express love and gratitude to
the people he/she admires.
Value 5: Determination
The best way to build sense of determination in your kid is give
you child an honest feedback instead giving them excessive praise. An honest
feedback delivered in gentle and supportive manner brings an urge in kid to do
well and get the appreciation.
Another effective way to help kids develop determination is
encourage them to do the things which are not too easy for them to achieve.
Praise them for their initiatives even if they could not succeed. Compliment
you kid if they manage to do the things which are not too easy for them.
Recognition and complement boost up kids’ willingness to do things better which
in turn make them more determined to keep trying for newer achievements.
